Marriage and Mental Health (From a Husband’s POV)

Hey, Nerdy Peeps! Today’s mental health post will be from my hubby’s mind. He wanted to have a guest spot on this post so, I’m letting him have the spotlight today! He wanted to share 8 ways he helps me with my anxiety and depression.

8 Things I do to Help My Wife’s Anxiety and Depression

Found her Emotional Support Animal

I was headed to a location one night when I found this little pup and knew I couldn’t leave him behind. So, I finished my work, loaded the little guy in my truck and told my wife to come and get him. What I didn’t know was that he would be the perfect thing we needed to help her out.

Talk & Listen

I know exactly when she needs to talk or when I need to listen. There are some days when she comes home after a long day, and I know I need to be there for her no matter whatever she needs.

Avert Her Attention

Making her laugh is always important to me. Especially, since I know that it helps her depression and gets her mind off of whatever is bugging her. I will also talk to her about what is going on with her niece and nephews because I know they always make her feel better.

Bring her favorite snack

My wife loves cookies! And I do my best to bring her them whenever I know they will help her out. Those darn cookies always put a smile on her face.

Notes & Pictures

I am no poet or artist, but I love leaving little notes for her so she knows I love her and to have a good day. My drawings are terrible, but she loves them, and I know she will always smile when she looks at them.

Be Patient & Help Her Work Through it

Her depression can get ugly sometimes and her anxiety shows it. That is when I know I need to be extra patient and give her space and the time she needs. I also know when she needs to work through whatever is going on in her head, so she can move past it and get her head in a better space.

Trips to the bookstore

As you can probably tell, my wife loves books, and the bookstore is her happy place. I don’t know what it is, but she always seems so much better and so calm as soon as we walk in the doors. Of course, I let her do her own thing and she can always find me with the sports magazines, once she is ready.

Try not to complain

I know I shouldn’t complain at all but sometimes I forget and things slip, but it doesn’t mean I don’t care. My advice to anyone married to someone with a mental illness is to always be patient and caring. My wife is my everything and if I complain it makes things a little tougher, but she hangs in there with me. Just like I hang in there with her.

Marriage and Mental Health

My hubby is pretty great! He knows exactly what I need way before I do, and that’s what I need the most. I love him with all I can and do everything I can to open up to him when I need to. I hope you Peeps enjoyed some words from my hubby and if you like posts like these please let me know. Maybe I can feature him again.

If you are married to someone with a mental illness, what are somethings they do to help you?

Another post from my hubby! 5 Struggles of Being Married To a Book Nerd


  1. Gabrielle Conkey October 5, 2017 at 2:57 pm

    What a wonderful read! I’ve dealt with anxiety for a long time and I just had my husband read this article with me and he said he feels like he has a better understanding of what I’m going through. Thank you for providing the point of view of the spouse dealing with their partner’s depression and anxiety.

    1. NerdyBookLife October 5, 2017 at 3:03 pm

      Anytime! It makes me happy to know I could help! Our husbands are our biggest support system!

  2. Pip October 9, 2017 at 1:37 pm

    This post is lovely. I suffer from anxiety and depression and I live alone. To have a supportive partner is wonderful, even if its to give you a much-needed hug at the end of the day. Sometimes words are not needed, just love x Great post

    1. NerdyBookLife October 9, 2017 at 1:48 pm

      Thank you for reading! And yes hugs are the best!

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