You Don’t Look Like You Have Depression

Hey, Nerdy Peeps! Let me tell you what my depression looks like!

The common phrase I hear a lot happens to be “You don’t look like you have depression.” Well, I didn’t know depression was something you can see.

The person behind the depression…

Yes, I smile, I laugh, and yes I make an effort in the world, but that does not mean I am not fighting a battle with myself. My depression is something I do my best to hide and if you’ve been following me you can see that in multiple posts. In fact, the main person that sees me at my worst is my husband, and he does his best to make it better.

dont look like depression

Why I make the best of everything

If I get out of bed, I know that I am going to make an effort to make it a great day. I’ll make an effort to be social and make my presence known and I’m pretty good at it. I can fake my happiness pretty well but that’s because I have had a bit of practice. When I make an effort, my depression takes a seat in the back and I can live life how I want to.

What you might not see

When I am alone, I don’t smile and I hardly laugh. I keep a pretty blank face and I don’t really show any emotions.

I’m quiet to the point where it can scare me and that is why you will always find me having some sort of noise going. Whether it is listening to some classical music or having a table fan going I can not sit in the quiet.

I will also find myself eating a lot when I’m alone and it’s something I hate because I am usually not eating anything healthy. Which makes it difficult to stay healthy.

dont look like depression

So, on the outside, no I don’t look like I have depression, but on the inside, I fight the battle every day, and sometimes it is not an easy one. But, I am making it and I am pulling through this journey one foot out of bed at a time.

My advice is to remember that you might not see it, but someone may have an illness you can’t see. So, please remember to be patient and show them as much love as you can. Talk to them, listen to them, and most of all never judge them. You will never know what they are battling on the inside!

Places where you can find my story:

My Fight

A Letter to My Depression

Why I Choose to Take Medication to Help With My Depression and Anxiety


  1. Nanci October 26, 2017 at 3:20 pm

    I love this article. Keep it up! 🙂

    1. NerdyBookLife October 26, 2017 at 3:20 pm

      Thank you!

  2. Jessica Burgess October 26, 2017 at 4:29 pm

    Hi there,
    I know exactly how you feel. Many more people go through depression including myself. Yet, we all seem to experience it differently. Thank you for sharing a little part of you. I know there is always more that we don’t tell others. You are brave for telling your story.

    1. NerdyBookLife October 26, 2017 at 5:14 pm

      Thank you!

  3. Kaitlyn October 26, 2017 at 4:41 pm

    Thank you for sharing this very important message! Mental illness is often invisible so it’s too often brushed aside.

    1. NerdyBookLife October 26, 2017 at 5:14 pm

      Yes it is! It needs to be brought to light more!

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