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It’s OK Not to be Perfect

Hey Nerdy Peeps! I keep seeing this quote float around on my Instagram and my Pinterest and it made me think about life. I know that sounds pretty cliché but it’s true. Let me tell you about this quote and why it’s OK not to be perfect. 

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It’s OK not to be perfect…

So, if you’re anything like me with your mental health journey, you think you have to be perfect all the time. Well, I’m here to tell you that you’re lying to yourself. Sweetheart no one is perfect and it’s pretty much impossible to be perfect. And that’s OK! Really, it is. I’m going to give you five reasons why I’m not perfect so you know it’s OK. 

I’m late to work almost every day…

Yep, you read that right. I don’t give myself enough time to get up and get ready to make it out the door on time. So, that means I am usually wearing my hair in a ponytail, no makeup, and I’m in jeans and a t-shirt. Trust me I wish I looked more professional at work, but my snooze habit limits my time. 

I hate cleaning…

My couch is flooded with clothes, and there is probably 10 dogs worth of dog hair that needs to be swept up in my living alone. I still have clean dishes waiting to be put away in my dishwasher. But you know what that’s ok because eventually they will get put away and my clothes will be folded. I just hate doing it. 

I am always finding ways to procrastinate…

Being a writer means I have lots of deadlines, and I have never missed one. That does mean I usually wait until almost the last second to get some things done. Same goes for most of the things I need to get done, but by some miracle I get them done on time. 

I am not always positive…

Nope, you might think I am but I can be a big negative Nancy. There are just somethings that happen in my life that don’t need positivity. I always thought that always being positive would get me one step closer to perfectionism, but I will probably never reach perfectionism. 

I am me…

Now you’re probably thinking well yeah you are, but what does that have to do with anything? Well, you see, I was made in God’s image and God doesn’t make perfect people. I mean Jesus wouldn’t have died for our sins if we were perfect. So that’s why I am me. I’m just a girl trying to live her life one day at a time and trust me it’s far from perfect. 

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So, you see it’s perfectly Ok not to be perfect. (See what I did there.) Anyway, we all have our flaws and we all choose to live with them differently. Some of us will try to hide them, and some of us will flaunt what God gave us with no care in the world. My challenge for you is to stop trying to reach perfection. Just be you. 

 

Two Books to Help Myself

Hey Nerdy Peeps! Guess who went book shopping? Me, I did. I got two lovely self-help books that I can’t wait to dive into. I got two books to help myself and I am going to share them with you.


Two Books to Help Myself

I’ve been slacking on myself lately, so I thought why not get some books that might be able to help. I chose You are a Badass because I hear everyone talking about it, and I chose Girl, Wash Your Face because a friend recommended it to me. Now, I’ve started listening to Girl, Wash Your Face at the gym and it’s truly amazing! I loved every second I listened to it while on the stationary bike and I was hooked. So, let me tell you more!

Girl, Wash Your Face

This book is by Rachel Hollis and even though I have just started listening to it I am already hooked. Let me tell you why. She is raw and she is real. This book will drag you in and keep you there and you won’t regret it.

Girl, Wash Your Face: Stop Believing the Lies About Who You Are So You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be

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Founder of the lifestyle website TheChicSite.com and CEO of her own media company, Chic Media, Rachel Hollis has created an online fan base of hundreds of thousands of fans by sharing tips for living a better life while fearlessly revealing the messiness of her own. Now comes her highly anticipated first book featuring her signature combination of honesty, humor, and direct, no-nonsense advice.

Each chapter of Girl, Wash Your Face begins with a specific lie Hollis once believed that left her feeling overwhelmed, unworthy, or ready to give up. As a working mother, a former foster parent, and a woman who has dealt with insecurities about her body and relationships, she speaks with the insight and kindness of a BFF, helping women unpack the limiting mindsets that destroy their self-confidence and keep them from moving forward.

From her temporary obsession with marrying Matt Damon to a daydream involving hypnotic iguanas to her son’s request that she buy a necklace to “be like the other moms,” Hollis holds nothing back. With unflinching faith and tenacity, Hollis spurs other women to live with passion and hustle and to awaken their slumbering goals.

You are a Badass

This book has been all over the place so I decided it was time to give it a shot.

You are a Badass: How to stop doubting your greatness and start living an awesome life

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In this refreshingly entertaining how-to guide, #1 New York Times Bestselling Author and world-traveling success coach, Jen Sincero, serves up 27 bite-sized chapters full of hilariously inspiring stories, sage advice, easy exercises, and the occasional swear word. If you’re ready to make some serious changes around here, You Are a Badass will help you: Identify and change the self-sabotaging beliefs and behaviors that stop you from getting what you want, blast past your fears so you can take big exciting risks, figure out how to make some damn money already, learn to love yourself and others, set big goals and reach them – it will basically show you how to create a life you totally love, and how to create it NOW.

By the end of You Are a Badass, you’ll understand why you are how you are, how to love what you can’t change, how to change what you don’t love, and how to use The Force to kick some serious ass.

If you’re wanting to kick some serious ass in the money department (you wanna?) and start making the kind of dinero you ain’t never made before, pre-order the next book in the series that’s all about your financial badassery: You Are a Badass at Making Money: Master the Mindset of Wealth, coming April 2017 from Viking Books.


I figured I can’t really afford the help of a psychologist, but maybe these books can help. I’m really looking forward to jumping into these books and seeing what they can help me with. If you’re looking for inexpensive help, just remember books really aren’t that expensive.

Mental Health Awareness Month

Hey Nerdy Peeps! I failed at the May blogging challenge and I’m ok with that. You see life has a way of getting in the way and it changes things for me. So, I decided to talk to you today. I’m going to tell you about all of the things that are bugging me. In the light of Mental Health Awareness Month, everyone needs a voice and I want to share mine with you.


My Voice

I’m struggling lately. Like really struggling. My body is exhausted. My mind is exhausted. I can’t explain it but I feel like I’m falling apart. Now, physically I feel fine, other than needing sleep. Mentally I feel overly drained, but I am hanging in there. Despite feeling exhausted, and drained I am doing things that I love to keep my mind off of everything.

So, do you want to know what those things are? Maybe they can help you get through some of the crappy mental health issues you’re trying to fight.

I’ve been painting. It’s really relaxing and I’m learning that I’m pretty good at it.

I am writing like a crazy person. Have you ever had so many stories that you need to get out on paper? Well, I have and it’s hard to keep track of them all, but it has also been a lot of fun.

Books are becoming my greatest escape. I’m listening to Smoke by T.M. Frazier, I am reading Eden by Elle Ward and Streetlamps to Starlight by various authors! (Review coming soon)


Now my biggest distraction happens to be my business. I have finally decided to start a graphic design business call Nerdy Designs by Jessie. I have been creating all kinds of fun graphics and I can’t seem to stop! I have gained my first client and helped her re-brand her business and I loved doing it.

Here is some of my work!

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Mental Health Awareness month is a big deal to me. It teaches me a lot about my mental health and what can help it. Do your research and learn what you can for your mental health or for others you know who deal with mental health issues.

Weekend Recuperation with Lots of Self Care

Hey Nerdy Peeps! Last week was a doosey, and I wanted to stay in bed all day and do absolutely nothing. Depression was suffocating and anxiety held me down like a rock. Yeah, it was not a pretty week for me or my mind. So, I recuperated with a weekend of self-care.


4 Tips for Self-Care Weekend Recuperation

So, Jessie what exactly did you do? Well, let me tell you.

Tip #1: Take lots of naps.

Naps were a much-needed thing to get my mind back where I needed it to be, and when I woke up this morning I felt great. My mind was back on track and I felt relaxed and ready to conquer the week.

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Tip #2: Escaped Reality through reading.

I read a lot and it was the best thing ever! I finished one book and got pretty far on the other one I have been reading. My current read is Instructions for a Second-Hand Heart by Tamsyn Murray, and let me tell you this it is absolutely the best book I have read in a while. Just wait for the review!

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Tip #3: I did some painting. 

No joke, I painted four canvases in a matter of a couple of hours and I loved it. It turned out to be very relaxing and took away quite a bit of stress. I’m going to start stocking up on canvases and paints. I can’t wait to see what other things I can paint.

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Bad picture, I know! It was the only one I had.

Tip #4: Also, just my favorite thing. 

Comfy clothes are a must for a self-care weekend. I mean you don’t need anything else, but comfy clothes, a throw blanket, sweet tea!

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With all of those tips, you should have the perfect arsenal for a weekend recuperation. Self-care is the best way to go, take a nap, read a book, paint a picture, and wear some comfy clothes. Trust me you will thank me later!

What are some things you do for self-care weekend recuperation?

More self-care tips: 10 Minute Challenge for Better Self Care

 

What’s New this Year for This Nerdy Girl: Meditation and More

Hey Nerdy Peeps! I have been up to some new and exciting things that I want to share with you. They have helped me more than I thought they would and maybe you can take the leap too! (And huge thanks to my friend Zoey for the title help!)


Meditation and More

Four days ago I started meditating, and it was the best decision I have ever made. I have felt way more relaxed and have so much more energy. Now, the app I have been using recommends that I meditate in the morning, but I decided to try it at night to see if it will help me sleep. I am so glad I did. So, let me list the top three benefits that I have experienced!

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  1. Better focus during the day
    • I have been able to focus on a lot more and it’s made working and writing so much easier.
  2. I sleep so much better!
    • Sleep used to suck for me. I could never seem to get a good deep sleep in for the night, but after meditating I am able to sleep well at night. My energy levels are up, and I don’t get sleepy through the day.
  3. It calms my mind which in return calms my anxiety.
    • This makes it easier to stop stressing over all the thoughts running through my head. I’ve also learned that it helps me filter through my thoughts during the day instead of letting them weigh me down.

So, you’re probably wondering which app I have been using. I have been using a free app called Headspace, and I love it! I started with the beginner’s program and it’s perfect. All the other apps I looked at either wanted money up front or just seemed too complex for what I was looking for. Headspace was the best app for what I was looking for. 10 minutes a day with guided meditation, and animations to go with some days. The animations make it easier to understand what you are learning and they have helped a lot. This app saved my crazy mind and I can’t wait to continue my journey.


Here comes the more

Himalayan Salt Lamp 

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This lamp is amazing. The benefits are truly the best and I use it every time I am reading in bed or getting my meditation on.

The facts! (These are found from other sites and the box from my lamp)

  1. Cleanses and deodorizes the air
    • I have seen a difference in my allergies, even though the house I live in isn’t sealed the best.
  2. Improve mood & concentration
    • This has been so true for this lamp. I have been able to focus on a single thing I am doing, and it’s amazing. My mind doesn’t wander and I can get things done.
  3. Better sleep
    • When I use this during my meditation it seems to help my relaxation and makes it easier for better sleep.

No sodas 

I know this is a shocker! Well, maybe not to you, but it is to me. I used to have one Dr. Pepper a day, sometimes two, but not anymore. It’s been water, juice, or sweet tea. I can feel the benefits of giving them up, and even though I miss them, I’m glad they are gone.

Healthier lunches 

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Yep, I am jumping on the healthy food bandwagon. I’m not big on food prep so I thought what would be a good alternative? I headed to the frozen food section at Wal-Mart and looked at the healthy foods section and decided to go with Smart Ones and Lean Cuisine. So, those are on the lunch menu for next week. I’ll keep ya posted on what I think!

Check out for my New Years Resolutions here!


There ya go peeps! These are all the new things I am starting for the New Year! What bandwagons have you jumped on? How are they helping you?