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Book Review of The Second Cup

Hey Nerdy Peeps! Today I am bringing you a book review of The Second Cup. This one was a hard hit for me and all the emotions felt so real. So, let’s get onto the review.


The Second Cup by Sarah Marie Graye

book review of the second cup

As someone who deals with a mental health journey on a daily basis, I didn’t think this book would hit me as hard as it did, boy was I wrong. This book was the most beautifully written mental health book I have ever read. To see what every character is going through after finding out their friend has killed themselves is an emotional roller coaster that I didn’t mind going on.

book review of the second cup

Each character goes on their own emotional journey to get through the death of their friend. Faye goes on a trip to find Jack’s friend, Abbie questions anything and everything, Olivia starts to wonder what’s going to happen next, and Beth, well Beth just wants to escape the pain.

book review of the second cup

Graye does an amazing job of pulling you into every page through all the women’s emotions. I wasn’t sure I would be able to get through the book because of my own mental health journey, but I am so happy I did. This book was an eye-opener that shows how one tragedy can lead to so many different emotional journeys.

book review of the second cup

Book Blurb: Would your life unravel if someone you knew committed suicide? Theirs did.

University was years ago, but Faye’s heart still belongs to her first love from her days as a student. She knows Jack might have moved on, but when she decides to try and track him down nothing prepares her for the news that he’s killed himself.

With the fragility of life staring them in the face, Abbie finds herself questioning her marriage and Faye her friendship with Ethan. And poor Olivia is questioning everything – including why Jack’s death has hit Beth the hardest. Is she about to take her own life too? (Goodreads)

Sarah Marie Graye

book review of the second cup

Sarah Marie Graye was diagnosed with depression aged 9 and with ADHD aged 42. She believes mental health issues have shaped her whole life – and they prompted her to write a novel so she could use fictional characters and a make-believe plot to explain the thoughts and feelings behind her mental health to others.

Sarah Marie has a Master’s degree in Creative Writing and her debut novel The Second Cup was longlisted for the Book Viral 2017 Millennium Book Award and made it into Read Freely’s Top 50 Indie Books 2017.

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This is a must read even if you are struggling with your own mental health. If you pick it up please let me know your thought!

Conquering the Feeling of Worthlessness

Hey Nerdy Peeps! I am having one tough day with my depression, but I want to make it better. So, I thought, why not make a post about it. This feeling of worthlessness has got to go.


Conquering the Feeling of Worthlessness

I went to the doctor the other day and I got some not so great news about my weight. In fact, it’s the highest it has ever been and I’m disgusted. Yep, you read that right, I’m disgusted, and I need to fix it.

There are other factors that are weighing in on my feelings of worthlessness, and I need to fix those too. The feelings of worthlessness mixed with my depression is not a great feeling. I’m to the point where I want to stay in bed and forget everything. I want to stop feeling like I’m not a good person because my finances are crap. My house is messy and I have no motivation to clean it. Now, the news of my weight has me wanting nothing to do with anything.

So, what am I going to do?

Healthy Eating 

This is step one in my “conquering the feeling of worthlessness” plan! I am looking up healthy recipes, cutting out Dr. Peppers, and other bad food habits. I am going to get this weight under control.

Exercise

Yep, the dreaded bad word, but I am going to do it. I’m going to start off slow and at my own pace and when I get stronger I am going to better my routines. Losing weight is going to help me feel so much better about me. This is going to be a great journey.

Get Dave Ramsey’s Book…

The Total Money Makeover! I have great feelings about this book. Our finances need some major help and I am hoping this book will save our credit, and help us manage our money better.

Clean my house

I am going to start this one room at a time. I’m going to move things around, and deep clean anything and everything. The baseboards will be clean, the ceiling fans will be clean, and the blinds will also be spotless. It may take me a few days, but my house will be clean and beautiful. (Now, it’s not disgusting or terrible, it just needs to be deep cleaned!)

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I am not worthless

I am worthy of being the best I can be

My depression does not control me or my thoughts

From this day forward I will be a stronger me


What helps you when you are feeling worthless? I am always up for new tips! 

 

Mental Health and the Holidays

Hey, Nerdy Peeps! IT’s the holiday season, and that means lots of parties and stress. So, I want to share with you some things I follow to stay sane during the holiday season. Holidays can take their toll on your mental health, so having the right tips can help you make it through any situation.


Mental Health and the Holidays

Don’t back out of plans.

Backing out of plans is not something that will make you feel better. So, my advice for going out to those holiday parties is to make the best of them. My momma has always taught me to make the best of things, so that’s what I do for parties.

 Find some ‘me’ time 

You are going to be dealing with a lot of people during the holiday season. So, it’s best if you find some time for yourself. Take some time to unwind and get away from the hustle and bustle of the holidays.

Help someone out

I always feel better if I donate to something. It means I helped someone have a little bit of a better holiday.

Don’t shut yourself out

Always remember there is someone out there that can help you. Don’t shut out the people who mean the most to you. They are always going to be there for you no matter what and you need to remember that.

Last but not least… Never stop laughing! 

As they always say, laughter is the best medicine! So, laugh whenever you can. You can also be the reason someone else laughs!

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What do you do to keep your mental health in check during the holidays? I love learning new tips!

Guest Post: 7 Tips to Cope With Anxiety

Hey, Nerdy Peeps! Let’s give a big nerdy welcome to Zoey from Zoey-Valuated! She is a fellow blogger and a new-found friend! Let’s give her some love and see what we can learn from her tips!


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Hi there, Jessie’s readers! I’m so excited to be here, been a big fan of Nerdy Book Life for quite a while now! Thanks for having me, Jessie! I’m going to be sharing a few little tips about coping with anxiety with you today.

I have a super rare condition called familial dysautonomia, it’s a mouthful, I know. If you ever want to read more about it, you can go here: www.zoeyvaluated.com/familialdysautonomia With this condition, comes anxiety, something I didn’t want to accept for a long time. But trust me, having anxiety is super common and not something to be ashamed of. Anxiety and any other mental health issues make us all who we are and make us stronger than ever.

Here are some ways I deal with my Generalized Anxiety Disorder…

Breathing – It seems so small and simple, but just taking a moment to take some deep breaths can go a long way.

Accepting – Once I finally realized that this wasn’t “just the way people are”, and that I do have anxiety, I was already on the road to finding some solutions.

Distracting – In the worst cases, I watch Ellen videos or my favourite TV shows… blogging is also one of my go-to’s

Meds – It was hard for me to accept that I needed medication. For some reason, I thought people would judge me, or maybe I was judging myself, who knows? Either way, the medication has helped keep me sane.

Opening up – Being open and honest can be really helpful. I always find this one hard, but I finally learnt that I have nothing to be ashamed of. Talking with my people or with my therapist is always very helpful for me!

Organizing – Maybe its just me, but whenever I’m overly anxious about something, I clean. Washing the dishes, folding laundry, it all makes my worries seem a little less hard to handle.

Dancing – Okay, so this one is slightly embarrassing. There have been one or two times where dancing it out really helped. Who knew, Greys Anatomy got this one right!

 

Thanks for reading my guest post, and another huge THANK YOU to the wonderful Jessie for inviting me! Hope these tips prove helpful!

If you ever want to check out my other posts, you can go to my blog here: www.zoeyvaluated.com


Like myself, Zoey also copes with Generalized Anxiety Disorder and I know I am going to put these tips to good use! Thanks again, Zoey, for visiting! It’s always a good time working with you!

Marriage and Mental Health (From a Husband’s POV)

Hey, Nerdy Peeps! Today’s mental health post will be from my hubby’s mind. He wanted to have a guest spot on this post so, I’m letting him have the spotlight today! He wanted to share 8 ways he helps me with my anxiety and depression.

8 Things I do to Help My Wife’s Anxiety and Depression

Found her Emotional Support Animal

I was headed to a location one night when I found this little pup and knew I couldn’t leave him behind. So, I finished my work, loaded the little guy in my truck and told my wife to come and get him. What I didn’t know was that he would be the perfect thing we needed to help her out.

Talk & Listen

I know exactly when she needs to talk or when I need to listen. There are some days when she comes home after a long day, and I know I need to be there for her no matter whatever she needs.

Avert Her Attention

Making her laugh is always important to me. Especially, since I know that it helps her depression and gets her mind off of whatever is bugging her. I will also talk to her about what is going on with her niece and nephews because I know they always make her feel better.

Bring her favorite snack

My wife loves cookies! And I do my best to bring her them whenever I know they will help her out. Those darn cookies always put a smile on her face.

Notes & Pictures

I am no poet or artist, but I love leaving little notes for her so she knows I love her and to have a good day. My drawings are terrible, but she loves them, and I know she will always smile when she looks at them.

Be Patient & Help Her Work Through it

Her depression can get ugly sometimes and her anxiety shows it. That is when I know I need to be extra patient and give her space and the time she needs. I also know when she needs to work through whatever is going on in her head, so she can move past it and get her head in a better space.

Trips to the bookstore

As you can probably tell, my wife loves books, and the bookstore is her happy place. I don’t know what it is, but she always seems so much better and so calm as soon as we walk in the doors. Of course, I let her do her own thing and she can always find me with the sports magazines, once she is ready.

Try not to complain

I know I shouldn’t complain at all but sometimes I forget and things slip, but it doesn’t mean I don’t care. My advice to anyone married to someone with a mental illness is to always be patient and caring. My wife is my everything and if I complain it makes things a little tougher, but she hangs in there with me. Just like I hang in there with her.

Marriage and Mental Health

My hubby is pretty great! He knows exactly what I need way before I do, and that’s what I need the most. I love him with all I can and do everything I can to open up to him when I need to. I hope you Peeps enjoyed some words from my hubby and if you like posts like these please let me know. Maybe I can feature him again.

If you are married to someone with a mental illness, what are somethings they do to help you?

Another post from my hubby! 5 Struggles of Being Married To a Book Nerd