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Mental Health and the Holidays

Hey, Nerdy Peeps! IT’s the holiday season, and that means lots of parties and stress. So, I want to share with you some things I follow to stay sane during the holiday season. Holidays can take their toll on your mental health, so having the right tips can help you make it through any situation.


Mental Health and the Holidays

Don’t back out of plans.

Backing out of plans is not something that will make you feel better. So, my advice for going out to those holiday parties is to make the best of them. My momma has always taught me to make the best of things, so that’s what I do for parties.

 Find some ‘me’ time 

You are going to be dealing with a lot of people during the holiday season. So, it’s best if you find some time for yourself. Take some time to unwind and get away from the hustle and bustle of the holidays.

Help someone out

I always feel better if I donate to something. It means I helped someone have a little bit of a better holiday.

Don’t shut yourself out

Always remember there is someone out there that can help you. Don’t shut out the people who mean the most to you. They are always going to be there for you no matter what and you need to remember that.

Last but not least… Never stop laughing! 

As they always say, laughter is the best medicine! So, laugh whenever you can. You can also be the reason someone else laughs!

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What do you do to keep your mental health in check during the holidays? I love learning new tips!

You Don’t Look Like You Have Depression

Hey, Nerdy Peeps! Let me tell you what my depression looks like!

The common phrase I hear a lot happens to be “You don’t look like you have depression.” Well, I didn’t know depression was something you can see.

The person behind the depression…

Yes, I smile, I laugh, and yes I make an effort in the world, but that does not mean I am not fighting a battle with myself. My depression is something I do my best to hide and if you’ve been following me you can see that in multiple posts. In fact, the main person that sees me at my worst is my husband, and he does his best to make it better.

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Why I make the best of everything

If I get out of bed, I know that I am going to make an effort to make it a great day. I’ll make an effort to be social and make my presence known and I’m pretty good at it. I can fake my happiness pretty well but that’s because I have had a bit of practice. When I make an effort, my depression takes a seat in the back and I can live life how I want to.

What you might not see

When I am alone, I don’t smile and I hardly laugh. I keep a pretty blank face and I don’t really show any emotions.

I’m quiet to the point where it can scare me and that is why you will always find me having some sort of noise going. Whether it is listening to some classical music or having a table fan going I can not sit in the quiet.

I will also find myself eating a lot when I’m alone and it’s something I hate because I am usually not eating anything healthy. Which makes it difficult to stay healthy.

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So, on the outside, no I don’t look like I have depression, but on the inside, I fight the battle every day, and sometimes it is not an easy one. But, I am making it and I am pulling through this journey one foot out of bed at a time.

My advice is to remember that you might not see it, but someone may have an illness you can’t see. So, please remember to be patient and show them as much love as you can. Talk to them, listen to them, and most of all never judge them. You will never know what they are battling on the inside!

Places where you can find my story:

My Fight

A Letter to My Depression

Why I Choose to Take Medication to Help With My Depression and Anxiety

Marriage and Mental Health (From a Husband’s POV)

Hey, Nerdy Peeps! Today’s mental health post will be from my hubby’s mind. He wanted to have a guest spot on this post so, I’m letting him have the spotlight today! He wanted to share 8 ways he helps me with my anxiety and depression.

8 Things I do to Help My Wife’s Anxiety and Depression

Found her Emotional Support Animal

I was headed to a location one night when I found this little pup and knew I couldn’t leave him behind. So, I finished my work, loaded the little guy in my truck and told my wife to come and get him. What I didn’t know was that he would be the perfect thing we needed to help her out.

Talk & Listen

I know exactly when she needs to talk or when I need to listen. There are some days when she comes home after a long day, and I know I need to be there for her no matter whatever she needs.

Avert Her Attention

Making her laugh is always important to me. Especially, since I know that it helps her depression and gets her mind off of whatever is bugging her. I will also talk to her about what is going on with her niece and nephews because I know they always make her feel better.

Bring her favorite snack

My wife loves cookies! And I do my best to bring her them whenever I know they will help her out. Those darn cookies always put a smile on her face.

Notes & Pictures

I am no poet or artist, but I love leaving little notes for her so she knows I love her and to have a good day. My drawings are terrible, but she loves them, and I know she will always smile when she looks at them.

Be Patient & Help Her Work Through it

Her depression can get ugly sometimes and her anxiety shows it. That is when I know I need to be extra patient and give her space and the time she needs. I also know when she needs to work through whatever is going on in her head, so she can move past it and get her head in a better space.

Trips to the bookstore

As you can probably tell, my wife loves books, and the bookstore is her happy place. I don’t know what it is, but she always seems so much better and so calm as soon as we walk in the doors. Of course, I let her do her own thing and she can always find me with the sports magazines, once she is ready.

Try not to complain

I know I shouldn’t complain at all but sometimes I forget and things slip, but it doesn’t mean I don’t care. My advice to anyone married to someone with a mental illness is to always be patient and caring. My wife is my everything and if I complain it makes things a little tougher, but she hangs in there with me. Just like I hang in there with her.

Marriage and Mental Health

My hubby is pretty great! He knows exactly what I need way before I do, and that’s what I need the most. I love him with all I can and do everything I can to open up to him when I need to. I hope you Peeps enjoyed some words from my hubby and if you like posts like these please let me know. Maybe I can feature him again.

If you are married to someone with a mental illness, what are somethings they do to help you?

Another post from my hubby! 5 Struggles of Being Married To a Book Nerd

Mental Health Interviews, We All Have a Story #1

Hey, Nerdy Peeps! Here is the first interview for the new series called, Mental Health Interviews, We All Have a Story. This will be a series of 6 questions to get to know the people behind their mental health journies.  Also, if the interviewees have a blog, I will feature their links so you can find them.

Mental Health Interview with Ami May

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  1. What is your mental health issue?
    • I have Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) also known as Emotional Unstable Personality Disorder (EUPD), Depression & Anxiety. 
  2. When were you diagnosed?
    • I was diagnosed when I was 18 (2011) after a short stay in the psychiatric ward at the hospital.
  3. Do your family and friends know?
    • Yes, my mum and I were fighting with the doctors for years, I eventually got into Child Adolescent Mental Health Service (CAMHS) which focused on family therapy which was fine except my father didn’t come so it was pretty pointless. Anyway, my mum has always been my main support, she was and still is the one that keeps my head above water, supported me and always been there no matter what. My boyfriend got with me 6 months before I was diagnosed and we have learned together how to cope with my mental health and be supportive. I don’t have real-life friends, I have few online friends which I’m quite happy with. 
  4. Has your mental health issue stopped you from doing anything?
    • I dropped out of college due to my mental health worsening, I then went onto job seekers allowance (JSA) then onto Employment Support Allowance (ESA) & Disability Living Allowance (DLA) as I am unable to work. I wouldn’t cope with the stress, I am not good in any social situation. I rarely leave the house at all and only a couple of times a week with my career or someone else. I guess it ruined my dream of becoming a social worker or supporting child and adults with learning difficulties. But, it has led me to my new and old love of books, English literature, writing etc. I want to become an author one day and help people through my books/novels. 
  5. What helps you the most to fight your mental health issue?
    • First and for most, my mum definitely. She is always there to pick me up when I fall, When I’m not thinking straight she is there to correct me when I need the brutally honest truth she is right there. The reason I am as strong as I can be is that I’ve had my mum to look up too. I have to mention my little brother who was born when I was 14, he is the light of my life. He looks up to me so I have to appear strong, brave and keep on fighting for him. And finally my Dad (stepdad) and my other half Jake of 6 years. And finally BOOKS, BOOKS and more BOOKS. It allows me to escape reality, travel to new places, it helps me cope by distracting me. Books are a coping strategy on paper. 
  6. What is your advice for anyone else struggling with a mental illness?
    • Never give up. I know life is shite and no matter how dark that black hole is, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Make sure you have a good support network, talk to them; if you can attend all your psychiatrist appointments and just work with them. Don’t listen to those who say that medication doesn’t fix you, they are right but they’re not supposed to completely fix you. They are there as a helping strategy; it may take you a while to find the right mix but keep on going. Any help is good help, right? 

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Ami also gave me some of her favorite quotes! So, I am going to share them with you because they are perfect! (Her links will be attached to the quote graphics!)

Ami’s Favorite Quotes

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If you want to be interviewed and be featured? Please let me know in the comments, and we will get together!
You can also email me at nerdybooklife@yahoo.com!

Mental Health Interviews, We All Have a Story

Mental Health Interviews, We All Have a Story

Hey, Nerdy Peeps! As you can tell by the title, I am starting a new series on my blog called, Mental Health Interviews, We All Have a Story. I wanted to start this series so that people with mental health battles can get their story out there in order for others to understand what our journey looks like.

So, I thought I would start the process and answer the questions I have come up with. You can also find my story in some many other posts and I will link them at the end of this post.

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Mental Health Interview with Myself

  1. What is your mental health issue?
    • I have generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) and chronic depression.
  2. When were you diagnosed?
    • I am not sure on the month but I know it was in 2015, and that is also when I started taking medication to help me with my battle.
  3. Do your family and friends know?
    • Yes, and they are super supportive and have learned so much more about me, thanks for me sharing my story with them.
  4. Has your mental health issue stopped you from doing anything?
    • I hate social situations with a lot of people. It gets hard to breathe and I have to stay on the outer edges so I can have a quick escape.
  5. What helps you the most to fight your mental health issue?
    • There are a few of these. The first would be reading this is the best way to escape from my world away from all the chaos in my head. I can enter a whole new world and not worry about mine.
    • Then writing would be the next one. I can get all my thoughts and feelings out of me and onto paper and it helps so much in my coping process.
    • My emotional support animal (ESA) Hopper! He is the all-time best thing to ever come into my life. I can’t explain how he does it, but he knows exactly when my anxiety isn’t getting to the point where I need help with calming down and he is right there.
    • Finally, would be my amazing husband. I honestly don’t know where I would be if I didn’t have him to dump all my issues out on. He is an amazing listener and gives some great advice when I need it. He’s also learned that there are times when I don’t want to talk and he will just leave me be.
  6. What is your advice for anyone else struggling with a mental illness?
    • You are never alone. There is always someone out there who is going to listen and talk to you to help you get through whatever you are going through. Also, my other piece of advice would be to NEVER GIVE UP! You are so strong and amazing that the world will always need you in it. Hang on to whatever you can and you will make it through this mental health battle.

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We All Have a Story

I want this series to be a way for people to open up about their mental health journies. Also, for them to see they are not alone. Maybe through this series, people can connect and find their mental health buddy. I remember when I felt alone when it came to my mental health and I never want anyone else to feel the way I did. These interviews are a way for people to not be scared to share their stories. They are also a way to get more education out there about different mental health issues.

Requesting an interview?

You can comment on this post with your email and I will get back to you. Or you can email me at nerdybooklife@gmail.com!

First interview is coming tomorrow! 

Find my story and battles in these links:

What My Mental Illness has Taught Me!

My Fight

A Letter to My Depression