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Mental Health and the Holidays

Hey, Nerdy Peeps! IT’s the holiday season, and that means lots of parties and stress. So, I want to share with you some things I follow to stay sane during the holiday season. Holidays can take their toll on your mental health, so having the right tips can help you make it through any situation.


Mental Health and the Holidays

Don’t back out of plans.

Backing out of plans is not something that will make you feel better. So, my advice for going out to those holiday parties is to make the best of them. My momma has always taught me to make the best of things, so that’s what I do for parties.

 Find some ‘me’ time 

You are going to be dealing with a lot of people during the holiday season. So, it’s best if you find some time for yourself. Take some time to unwind and get away from the hustle and bustle of the holidays.

Help someone out

I always feel better if I donate to something. It means I helped someone have a little bit of a better holiday.

Don’t shut yourself out

Always remember there is someone out there that can help you. Don’t shut out the people who mean the most to you. They are always going to be there for you no matter what and you need to remember that.

Last but not least… Never stop laughing! 

As they always say, laughter is the best medicine! So, laugh whenever you can. You can also be the reason someone else laughs!

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What do you do to keep your mental health in check during the holidays? I love learning new tips!

Guest Post: 7 Tips to Cope With Anxiety

Hey, Nerdy Peeps! Let’s give a big nerdy welcome to Zoey from Zoey-Valuated! She is a fellow blogger and a new-found friend! Let’s give her some love and see what we can learn from her tips!


guest post 7 tips cope anxiety

Hi there, Jessie’s readers! I’m so excited to be here, been a big fan of Nerdy Book Life for quite a while now! Thanks for having me, Jessie! I’m going to be sharing a few little tips about coping with anxiety with you today.

I have a super rare condition called familial dysautonomia, it’s a mouthful, I know. If you ever want to read more about it, you can go here: www.zoeyvaluated.com/familialdysautonomia With this condition, comes anxiety, something I didn’t want to accept for a long time. But trust me, having anxiety is super common and not something to be ashamed of. Anxiety and any other mental health issues make us all who we are and make us stronger than ever.

Here are some ways I deal with my Generalized Anxiety Disorder…

Breathing – It seems so small and simple, but just taking a moment to take some deep breaths can go a long way.

Accepting – Once I finally realized that this wasn’t “just the way people are”, and that I do have anxiety, I was already on the road to finding some solutions.

Distracting – In the worst cases, I watch Ellen videos or my favourite TV shows… blogging is also one of my go-to’s

Meds – It was hard for me to accept that I needed medication. For some reason, I thought people would judge me, or maybe I was judging myself, who knows? Either way, the medication has helped keep me sane.

Opening up – Being open and honest can be really helpful. I always find this one hard, but I finally learnt that I have nothing to be ashamed of. Talking with my people or with my therapist is always very helpful for me!

Organizing – Maybe its just me, but whenever I’m overly anxious about something, I clean. Washing the dishes, folding laundry, it all makes my worries seem a little less hard to handle.

Dancing – Okay, so this one is slightly embarrassing. There have been one or two times where dancing it out really helped. Who knew, Greys Anatomy got this one right!

 

Thanks for reading my guest post, and another huge THANK YOU to the wonderful Jessie for inviting me! Hope these tips prove helpful!

If you ever want to check out my other posts, you can go to my blog here: www.zoeyvaluated.com


Like myself, Zoey also copes with Generalized Anxiety Disorder and I know I am going to put these tips to good use! Thanks again, Zoey, for visiting! It’s always a good time working with you!

You Don’t Look Like You Have Depression

Hey, Nerdy Peeps! Let me tell you what my depression looks like!

The common phrase I hear a lot happens to be “You don’t look like you have depression.” Well, I didn’t know depression was something you can see.

The person behind the depression…

Yes, I smile, I laugh, and yes I make an effort in the world, but that does not mean I am not fighting a battle with myself. My depression is something I do my best to hide and if you’ve been following me you can see that in multiple posts. In fact, the main person that sees me at my worst is my husband, and he does his best to make it better.

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Why I make the best of everything

If I get out of bed, I know that I am going to make an effort to make it a great day. I’ll make an effort to be social and make my presence known and I’m pretty good at it. I can fake my happiness pretty well but that’s because I have had a bit of practice. When I make an effort, my depression takes a seat in the back and I can live life how I want to.

What you might not see

When I am alone, I don’t smile and I hardly laugh. I keep a pretty blank face and I don’t really show any emotions.

I’m quiet to the point where it can scare me and that is why you will always find me having some sort of noise going. Whether it is listening to some classical music or having a table fan going I can not sit in the quiet.

I will also find myself eating a lot when I’m alone and it’s something I hate because I am usually not eating anything healthy. Which makes it difficult to stay healthy.

dont look like depression

So, on the outside, no I don’t look like I have depression, but on the inside, I fight the battle every day, and sometimes it is not an easy one. But, I am making it and I am pulling through this journey one foot out of bed at a time.

My advice is to remember that you might not see it, but someone may have an illness you can’t see. So, please remember to be patient and show them as much love as you can. Talk to them, listen to them, and most of all never judge them. You will never know what they are battling on the inside!

Places where you can find my story:

My Fight

A Letter to My Depression

Why I Choose to Take Medication to Help With My Depression and Anxiety

When Life Gives You Lemons… Make Lemonade?

Hey, Nerdy Peeps! Do you ever get to that point in life where it would just be so easy to become a hermit? 

Make Lemonade?

When Life Gives You Lemons

Oh, boy has the last two months been a doozy!  I really don’t even know where to start this post other than I am at the end of my rope. And when I’m at the end of my rope it’s time to let go and let God handle things. Even though lately it feels like He’s kind of just sitting back and watching everything fall apart. No, I’m not blaming Him because I know he does things to make us stronger and doesn’t give us anything we can’t handle. Lately, though it’s like come on God I need a break.

See, back in the beginning of June my husband tore his ACL and has been off work since. Sunday the 23rd, he fell and broke his patella on the same leg he just had repaired. (I know I need to put him in a bubble). All of this combined with the accident he had back in November has just been one tornado after the other, but I can’t lose hope. Right?

So, anyway enough of the ugly. Let’s find some funny quotes and some fun facts. (I found most of these from Google images and The Fact Site)

When Life Gives You Lemons

Funny Quotes

“If someone calls you ‘ugly’ have a good comeback and say ‘excuse me, I am not a mirror!”  

“I’m going to stand outside. So if anyone asks, I’m outstanding.”

“Admit it… Life would be so boring without me.”

“I am not anti-social. I am just really pro-me.”

Fun Facts

Banging your head against a wall burns 150 calories an hour.

A flock of crows is known as a murder.

The person who invented the Frisbee was cremated and made into frisbees after he died! 

The total number of steps in the Eiffel Tower is 1665. 

I hope these quotes and fun facts made you smile and hopefully laugh. They were definitely needed after the months I’ve had!

What are some funny quotes or fun facts you have? Let’s fill the comments with laughs and smiles!

 

 

 

 

Spotlight Sunday: Recommendations for Self Help

Hey, Nerdy Peeps!  I wanted to put a list of self-help books together that will help with my mental health. Then, I got a text from a friend giving me an idea for a blog post, and he asked for self-help books on being a better you. So, here is Spotlight Sunday: recommendations for self-help…

Book #1

Spotlight Sunday: Recommendations for Self Help

You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life

Book Blurb: By the end of You Are a Badass, you’ll understand why you are how you are, how to love what you can’t change, how to change what you don’t love, and how to use The Force to kick some serious ass.

Book #2

Spotlight Sunday: Recommendations for Self Help
Furiously Happy: A Funny Book about Horrible Things

Book Blurb: According to Jenny: “Some people might think that being ‘furiously happy’ is just an excuse to be stupid and irresponsible and invite a herd of kangaroos over to your house without telling your husband first because you suspect he would say no since he’s never particularly liked kangaroos. And that would be ridiculous because no one would invite a herd of kangaroos into their house. Two is the limit. I speak from personal experience. My husband says that none is the new limit. I say he should have been clearer about that before I rented all those kangaroos.”

Book #3

Spotlight Sunday: Recommendations for Self Help
Deep Survival: Who Lives, Who Dies, and Why: Who Lives, Who Dies and Why

Book Blurb: In Deep Survival, Laurence Gonzalez combines hard science and powerful storytelling to illustrate the mysteries of survival, whether in the wilderness or in meeting any of life’s great challenges. This gripping narrative, the first book to describe the art and science of survival, will change the way you see the world. Everyone has a mountain to climb. Everyone has a wilderness inside.

Book #4

Spotlight Sunday: Recommendations for Self Help
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

Book Blurb: For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. “F**k positivity,” Mark Manson says. “Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it.” In his wildly popular Internet blog, Mason doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s all feel good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.

Book #5

Spotlight Sunday: Recommendations for Self Help
Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

Book Blurb: Every day we experience the uncertainty, risks, and emotional exposure that define what it means to be vulnerable, or to dare greatly. Whether the arena is a new relationship, an important meeting, our creative process, or a difficult family conversation, we must find the courage to walk into vulnerability and engage with our whole hearts.

Book #6

Spotlight Sunday: Recommendations for Self Help
the Untethered Soul: The Journey beyond Yourself

Book Blurb:  Whether this is your first exploration of inner space, or you’ve devoted your life to the inward journey, this book will transform your relationship with yourself and the world around you. You’ll discover what you can do to put an end to the habitual thoughts and emotions that limit your consciousness. By tapping into traditions of meditation and mindfulness, author and spiritual teacher Michael A. Singer shows how the development of consciousness can enable us all to dwell in the present moment and let go of painful thoughts and memories that keep us from achieving happiness and self-realization.

Book #7

Spotlight Sunday: Recommendations for Self Help
How to Win Friends and Influence People

Book Blurb: Learn the six ways to make people like you, the twelve ways to win people to your way of thinking, and the nine ways to change people without arousing resentment.

Book #8

Spotlight Sunday: Recommendations for Self Help
7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change

Book Blurb: In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, author Stephen R. Covey presents a holistic, integrated, principle-centered approach for solving personal and professional problems. With penetrating insights and pointed anecdotes, Covey reveals a step-by-step pathway for living with fairness, integrity, service, and human dignity — principles that give us the security to adapt to change and the wisdom and power to take advantage of the opportunities that change creates.

Book #9

Spotlight Sunday: Recommendations for Self Help
Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life

Book Blurb: Are you tired of feeling fu*ked up? If you are, Gary John Bishop has the answer. In this straightforward handbook, he gives you the tools and advice you need to demolish the slag weighing you down and become the truly unfu*ked version of yourself. “Wake up to the miracle you are,” he directs. “Here’s what you’ve forgotten: You’re a fu*king miracle of being.” It isn’t other people that are standing in your way, it isn’t even your circumstances that are blocking your ability to thrive, it’s yourself and the negative self-talk you keep telling yourself.

 

I know Spotlight Sunday is usually just one book, but I have been looking for some self-help books and decided these needed the spotlight. Also, I had a friend who asked for some recommendations, so it was the perfect opportunity for this post. There is a mixture of books to help you be a better you and books for mental health, I wanted to cater to all needs and give multiple options. If you have been in the need for a new self-help book journey, I hope these help.

What are some recommendations you think I should check out? If you have read any of these I would love to know your thoughts!